On (not) taking my new husband's name...

Midlife marriage is full of compromise - and clarity.

“Will you be taking his name?”

I heard that question at least a dozen times in the month or so leading up to my recent wedding, from the county clerk who issued our marriage license, to the pastor who officiated, to the friends and family who wanted to update their address books to include my new address - and, of course, my new spouse.

The responses to …