This is so pertinent for where I am right now. In my post last week I referred to it as acting as a "maternal angst sponge. " I absorb all that new semester/what am I doing for the summer stress as the kids are getting ready to head back to school without realizing it until my neck gets stiff, and I'm having trouble sleeping. Distance without detachment is exactly it. And as much as I'll miss them, when the final one goes back tomorrow I'll be glad for the clarity it brings for my own personal stuff. I love having them home. And I love it when we all get back to our own work and look forward to the next visit. Thanks for this.
We lived with my in laws for several months, and what I realized (my husband is the oldest of 10) was that I was never going to stop being tired as a mom. Not in a bad way, but witnessing my MIL’s fatigue from staying up later than she’d prefer talking to college kids home from the summer, and being unable to sleep bc of menopause and the way that she cared for but couldn’t control the new driver, the job woes etc… was good for me. It makes me a little less likely to want to rush through my current days.
Meagan, congrats on the book. I'm looking forward to reading it. I'm the author of the anti-helicoptering book "How to Raise an Adult," and I'm writing to see if you might have interest in the topic of my next book, which is for parents and adult children who live together. I posit that contrary to the dominant narrative, living together doesn't mean that someone has "failed" but I am clear that folks have to be willing to do the WORK in order to be good at it. Would you or your readers be interested in this topic? If so I am crowdsourcing the questions folks have and the advice they would offer and I'd love to share a survey with you. LMK Best, Julie
Thanks for reaching out, Julie! In my book I actually wrote a bit about cohabitating with adult kids and what it could look like (vs. what it has sometimes unfortunately looked like for me, lol.) I definitely think there could be some interest in this topic. If you like, send me a DM with the survey!
I'm so happy to read your words about parenting older kids. I've followed you since the early blog days, when my now high school senior was a brand new baby. There's something very comforting to hear the real life tales and advice from another mom who's just a little 'ahead' of you. Thank you!
P.S. I do also love reading about tea and chickens!
Margaret, this is so flattering and heartening to read. Thank you for being along for the ride all this time - and I'll keep the tea and chickens coming, too!
This is so pertinent for where I am right now. In my post last week I referred to it as acting as a "maternal angst sponge. " I absorb all that new semester/what am I doing for the summer stress as the kids are getting ready to head back to school without realizing it until my neck gets stiff, and I'm having trouble sleeping. Distance without detachment is exactly it. And as much as I'll miss them, when the final one goes back tomorrow I'll be glad for the clarity it brings for my own personal stuff. I love having them home. And I love it when we all get back to our own work and look forward to the next visit. Thanks for this.
We lived with my in laws for several months, and what I realized (my husband is the oldest of 10) was that I was never going to stop being tired as a mom. Not in a bad way, but witnessing my MIL’s fatigue from staying up later than she’d prefer talking to college kids home from the summer, and being unable to sleep bc of menopause and the way that she cared for but couldn’t control the new driver, the job woes etc… was good for me. It makes me a little less likely to want to rush through my current days.
It truly never ends - and yet, it's SO HARD, in the moment, to not still want to rush through it anyway. The tension is real.
I’m so excited to read this book! Congrats, Meagan! 🎉
- Mom of a 7 year old and college sophomore
Thank you! You’re in it with me!!
Meagan, congrats on the book. I'm looking forward to reading it. I'm the author of the anti-helicoptering book "How to Raise an Adult," and I'm writing to see if you might have interest in the topic of my next book, which is for parents and adult children who live together. I posit that contrary to the dominant narrative, living together doesn't mean that someone has "failed" but I am clear that folks have to be willing to do the WORK in order to be good at it. Would you or your readers be interested in this topic? If so I am crowdsourcing the questions folks have and the advice they would offer and I'd love to share a survey with you. LMK Best, Julie
Thanks for reaching out, Julie! In my book I actually wrote a bit about cohabitating with adult kids and what it could look like (vs. what it has sometimes unfortunately looked like for me, lol.) I definitely think there could be some interest in this topic. If you like, send me a DM with the survey!
Meagan thanks so much. And thanks for helping with my survey. Can I get your email? I need to provide some assets along with the link.
Loved this, Meagan! And can’t wait to read the book!
Oh my gosh parenting young adults is hard. Thank you for naming the challenge!
You're welcome - thanks, Kris!
I'm so happy to read your words about parenting older kids. I've followed you since the early blog days, when my now high school senior was a brand new baby. There's something very comforting to hear the real life tales and advice from another mom who's just a little 'ahead' of you. Thank you!
P.S. I do also love reading about tea and chickens!
Margaret, this is so flattering and heartening to read. Thank you for being along for the ride all this time - and I'll keep the tea and chickens coming, too!